Please don’t rely on frozen eggs

posted by Brigitte Adams March 8, 2017
Frozen eggs not pregnant

I can barely see straight and not sure I should even post this…  I was told on Saturday that I was pregnant.  I was told on Tuesday the embryo had died.  I have no more eggs to try.  I have no more eggs to retrieve.  I have no energy to try again. I am mourning the loss of a baby and the loss of ever having a biological child.  I don’t want to brush myself off and move on.  I wish the embryo never implanted.  Cruel joke to think for 72 hours that this 1 fighter that tested chromosomally normal was growing inside of me.

No one talks about part 2 of egg freezing.  We need to start.  If I could do it all again I would:

  1. Freeze multiple rounds
  2. Freeze embryos
  3. Really understand my AMH and FSH levels
  4. Stop working so many hours at shitty jobs
  5. Not count on my frozen eggs to work

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Dawn Davenport, Exec. Dir. Creating a Family March 10, 2017 at 4:06 pm

Oh, I am so so sorry!!! No words of advice, just my sincere sorrow.

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Brigitte Adams March 11, 2017 at 10:57 pm

Dawn: thank you. Your work at Creating a Family is inspirational. Fertility never follows the path we plan or hope for and we need to support, talk and learn from each other.

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Motherhood on ice: has the egg-freezing generation of working women been misled? – Oz Bush Telegraph Online March 18, 2017 at 8:13 am

[…] “I was told on [the] Saturday that I was pregnant. I was told on [the] Tuesday the embryo had died. I have no more eggs to try. I have no more eggs to retrieve. I have no energy to try again. I am mourning the loss of a baby and the loss of ever having a biological child,” she wrote in an emotional post on her blog. […]

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A'ndrea March 28, 2017 at 10:25 pm

Heartbreaking and courageous you are for sharing. I’m sorry to hear of your loss and situation. Thank you immensely for sharing as I am just getting ready to start the egg freezing process and only thought briefly about the steps to follow once trying to get pregnant. Thank you again for being a brave woman!

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