Wendy’s Stats: Froze @ 42, # eggs retrieved: 16, # frozen: 15
Why did you decide to freeze your eggs?
Deciding to freeze my eggs was all about having options. I knew I did not want to give up my ability to choose and have options. I still believe in love first and would marry someone that did not want children. I never obsessed too much about having children. When I hit my 30’s, I resolved myself to the fact that this was something that may or may not happen for me. As I got older, I was not overly obsessed with getting married and having a baby. I have always believed that the decision to have a child is made between two people in love.
It did begin to sadden me that due to my age and not meeting the right partner within my biological time frame I would lose the ability to choose. At 40, I fell in love and met the man I thought I was going to marry. Unfortunately, unexplainably he ended our relationship. I was devastated as we were talking marriage. I will admit falling in love
was a powerful catalyst in deciding to freeze my eggs. I knew a few months after the relationship ended I had a lot of hurt to heal from. I didn’t want to deal with the loss of my fertility, as well as the loss of a love. I feel it is a gift to have this option to choose.
I was fortunate to meet a gal from Chicago, Michelle, on Eggsurance who was cycling at the same exact time I was. We both provided each other with daily support and she really kept me going.
What was the most difficult part of the procedure?
The most difficult part of the process for me was after the egg retrieval. I was on an extremely aggressive protocol. I have one ovary, an AMH of .66 and an FSH of 8.2. I was told I would likely only get 5 eggs as they only saw 8 resting follicles. They did the estrogen/testosterone protocol on me for 10 days and then 12 days of injections. I was on nearly double the dosage of meds my 36 year old cycle buddy was on.
I felt great on the hormones, but about a month after the retrieval I dealt with about two weeks of extreme bloating. Then I started to loose my hair. I literally lost about 50% of my hair. Fortunately, I have a ton of it. Then I hit postpartum depression for about 60 days after the procedure. I have never suffered from depression and it did pass, but I felt like a cat on draperies. Luckily I reached out to another gal on this site and she said the same thing happened to her. I also had a slight vision change and had to change my prescription. I was told it was likely from all the hormones.
What helped you through the process?
I was fortunate to meet a gal from Chicago, Michelle, on Eggsurance who was cycling at the same exact time I was. We both provided each other with daily support and she really kept me going. The first injection was tough, but having a cycle buddy made me feel like I wasn’t so alone. I could not gone through this without her.
I know that there are no guarantees, but I’m so thankful to be able to empower myself and ultimately not give up on my ability to choose to start a family with a partner.
What would you tell women who are thinking about freezing their eggs?
I still have no regrets. I know younger is better, but I achieved amazing results and I only have one ovary. They told me going into this I would likely get no more than 5 eggs. I ended up getting 16 eggs, 15 were viable for freezing! I would encourage women to freeze their eggs at a younger age than I did. Age will have an impact on the quality of your eggs and your overall success rate. I had one fertility clinic even turn me down, because of my age. They didn’t even examine me. They said that they did not accept patients over 40.
Egg Freezing is the best thing I have ever done. I know that there are no guarantees, but I’m so thankful to be able to empower myself and ultimately not give up on my ability to choose to start a family with a partner.